Psychology - Shinri-gaku (心理学), Dai-Shihan Jason Steeves
Discipline
If the Ninja was known for anything, it was their superhuman abilities, which come from extreme mental discipline. You must train yourself to overcome where others would fail. Failure starts in the mind, not the body. When you are lifting a very heavy weight in an exercise routine, it will hurt, you will get tired, your mind will say “I cannot do any more”, then most would stop contracting their muscles and believe the muscles themselves failed. You must not believe the mind. When it says “I cannot”, the truth is, the physical body actually can give a little more. Push, scream, don’t let the physical body stop. Command your body to continue until you bleed, cry, piss yourself, or pass out. This separates the champion from the common.
Discipline starts first thing in the morning with the alarm clocks. I use three alarms (1 electric, 1 battery, and 1 wind-up) and I read that SEALs say “First Alarm Clock” out loud and now I do that too. If you can get out of bed and set discipline here, you set the tone for the whole day. It’s a small test, but if you pass, it leads to bigger and better decisions and discipline throughout your day and your life. You take control of your life and not let other factors control you.
“Waking up early was the first example I noticed in the SEAL Teams in which discipline was really the difference between being good and being exceptional. I saw it with some of the older, experienced SEALs. Those who were at work before everyone else were the ones who were considered the best “operators.” That meant they had the best field craft, the most squared away gear, they were the best shots, and they were the most respected. It all tied into discipline. By discipline, I mean an intrinsic self-discipline— a matter of personal will. The best SEALs I worked with were invariably the most disciplined. They woke up early. They worked out every day. They studied tactics and technology. They practiced their craft...They woke up early and maintained discipline at every level.” - Willink, Jocko; Babin, Leif. Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win. St. Martin's Press.
When you are out on a tactical mission, you may need to carry crazy poundages of gear or endure extreme heat and cold temperatures. When you get tired, you cannot sit down and rest. You need to keep moving tactically and quietly, with purpose. You cannot eat or drink when you want. You cannot sleep when you are tired. You need to be in a tactically safe position first and remain alert. When you wear gear that you don’t like or are unaccustomed to, discipline makes you adapt and get better. The methods you and your team use must be disciplined so you know how they will move and act. You will always be tempted with the easy road.
Skill
Steps to level up skill: Measurement equals improvement. Use imagery.
Knowledge is not power. The application of knowledge is power. Nothing will work until you do. The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary. Ships don’t come in; they are pulled in through hard work.
Always keep a pen & paper within seconds of you to capture your great ideas.
If you're in the presence of two teachers, one good and one bad, learn from them both. Eat the chicken. Spit out the bones.
If you want to become really great at something, you need to be able to work for at least 10 years without any reward. If you don't think you can make it past a couple of years without getting rewarded, you're probably not going to make it.
Skill is NOT 99% inspiration and 1% perspiration. It is the opposite.
Have you suffered a trauma that is holding you back with PTSD? Try PTG (Post Traumatic Growth). Why do some suffer after a trauma while others excel because of it, or in spite of it?
Don’t say “Everything is important.” What will bring the most value to our project (or company, or skill, etc.)? Do that first.
A leader must take extreme ownership for everything that happens in his world. Everything that goes right or wrong is his fault. If an individual under you is underperforming, then the leader must mentor that person until they understand and improve because it is the leader’s fault. If they fail to improve due to some type of character flaw, it is the leader’s responsibility to fire them and replace them. There are no bad teams; only bad leaders.
A tortured genius is when a leader (or team member) refuses to accept extreme ownership and anything and everything that goes wrong is someone else’s fault, or everybody else’s fault, and they cannot understand how nobody sees the genius of their own perfection.
“Hell Week [Navy Seals] was not a fitness test. While it did require some athletic ability, every student that survived the weeks of BUD/S training prior to Hell Week had already demonstrated adequate fitness to graduate. It was not a physical test but a mental one. Sometimes, the best athletes in the class didn’t make it through Hell Week. Success resulted from determination and will, but also from innovation and communication with the team. Such training graduated men who were not only physically tough but who could also out-think their adversary.” - Willink, Jocko; Babin, Leif. Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win. St. Martin's Press.
Leaders need to bring together the best elements of their team. A team that is doing poorly can win if the leader is changed.
Preparing a leader and a team for casualties on the battlefield is key to success. Many are unaware of reality.
Every team must have junior leaders trained and ready to step up when the need arises to fill in the gap for any reason.
Leaders must push themselves and their team members to reach for growth and to honestly assess weaknesses and plan how to overcome them. They must never be comfortable where they are. Only then will they dominate on any battlefield. This idea must spread through the team.
A leader must be humble and quiet (not a pacifist or silent). A leader must have a balance of closeness with subordinates without being too close. You are their leader first, then a friend, not the other way around. A leader must accept extreme ownership. A leader must use decentralized command. A leader has nothing to prove and everything to prove at the same time. A leader does not gloat or be headstrong, lording his position over others. A leader must also be a follower. A leader must be logical but not emotionless.
“Treat your troops like your own dear family and they will follow you anywhere.” - Sun Tsu, paraphrased.
Stress
4 pillars of stress management: self-gratitude, self-forgiveness, self-compassion, & self-love. Change “I’ve got to...” to “I get to”.
“Do not pray for an easy life. Instead, pray for the strength to endure a hard one.” - Bruce Lee
Exercise is not only good for your body, it’s great for your mind. It relieves depression. Not exercising is like taking a depressant.
Depression can also be relieved with gratitude. You cannot be simultaneously grateful and depressed.
Meditate daily. Seriously. Breath work is great too. In through the nose because it creates nitric oxide, which dilates blood vessels. It will also warm the air in the winter when outside and prevent your lungs from freezing.
“Through dozens of intense training scenarios throughout the previous year, our SEAL platoon and task unit had rehearsed in chaotic and difficult situations. That training was designed to overwhelm us, to push us far outside our comfort zone, and force us to make critical decisions under pressure. Amid the noise, mayhem, and uncertainty of the outcome, we had practiced the ability to remain calm, step back from the situation mentally, assess the scenario, decide what had to be done, and make a call. We had learned to Prioritize and Execute. This process was not intuitive to most people but could be learned, built upon, and greatly enhanced through many iterations of training.” - Willink, Jocko; Babin, Leif. Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win. St. Martin's Press.
You must prioritize your problems and then execute them one at a time. You must be able to do this during the chaos of battle (or even in business). You cannot do any good if you are spread too thin and the problem won’t get anywhere if you are spread too thin either.
Willpower
People with more powerful willpower are those who meditate with proper breathing because of the change in brain matter.
MMPI
Jason’s Rules (life rules)
Known sin will be stopped.
Be a good husband/wife and please and pleasure your spouse alone.
Be a good father and love your children with all your heart.
Spend free time with your family.
Share household responsibilities with your spouse equally.
Work/study as many hours per day as the Bible teaches (60 hours per week).
Pray and worship together at home daily.
Corporal punishment will not be practiced in anger.
Produce or study a work/title on marriage.
Do not argue, ever. Lower your arousal level.
Cry when you feel like crying.
Pray publicly.
Invest money into the house before any toys.
Limit movies and games ratings.
Do not break any laws of any kind (unless God’s Law supersedes it).
Engage the preacher when questions are asked.
Remain physically fit with exercise and food.
You belong to your spouse and your spouse belongs to you.
Minister to people when the opportunity arises.
Never look at any other woman in any other form, other than your wife.
Accept your wife’s faults, no matter what they are.
Listen to your spouse/kids when they speak, even if you are not interested.
Hug, kiss, hold your spouse’s hand, and tell them you love them every single day.
Hug, kiss, and tell your kids you love them every single day.
Read the Bible often.
Memorize Scripture daily.
Give to the needy, whenever asked, expecting nothing in return.
Sex belongs in marriage only, to your spouse only.
Never use or encourage substance use of any kind.
Never use foul language.
Never improperly become angered.
Do not go where you should not be.
Do not cross your arms unless it’s for show.
Forgive those who wrong you, over and over (70x7).
All debts and surplus will be shared with your spouse equally.
Let your spouse buy anything they want, no matter what you may think of it.
Go to bed and wake up at the same time every day.
Either let your spouse go to bed any time they want, or you will join them.
Let your spouse go anywhere they want, anytime they want, no questions asked.
Do not manipulate people in any way.
Do not boast of your superior intelligence.
Do not request sex from your spouse if they do not feel like it.
Do not do anything during sex that your spouse does not want.
Think only of your spouse during sex.
Have as many children as the Holy Spirit leads you to have.
Do not lie to anyone for any reason.
Be content with where you are. There are worse places to be.
If separate from your spouse/family and you feel this bad without family, imagine how bad it would be without God in Hell, forever.
Never hang up the phone on family or friends in anger.
Do not use credit for purchases.
Do not doubt God before the fact.
Express your love to your father always.
Channel all of your sexual energy into your wife.
Do not cheat on money, taxes, people, games, God, your spouse, or otherwise.
Turn to Christ in prayer during moments of temptation.
Desire your spouse in your life more than anything else.
God can and will break your habit of your favourite sin.
Do not raise the Devil horns or the middle finger.
Hard work brings more money.
Do not download any songs, movies, programs, or otherwise, illegally.
Enjoy life and follow it through as God intended; do not think of suicide.
Fasting releases the supernatural power of God.
Take your family to visit the holy land and other sacred sites soon.
Dedicate your entire life to God, in all areas, in everything you do.
The person you were is dead to sin; the person you are is born again of the Spirit.
Play the game of life voluntarily and win it.
You have freedom to choose your Master and He is God forever, not Satan ever.
Go see estranged family and make amends, if possible.
Bad times are not important. Eternity is coming soon!
Prepare/read a work/title about your/someone’s bad experience.
Do not take on more than you can handle; a jack of all trades is a master of none.
Fight through depression by insisting and forcing hope and happiness in faith.
Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself.
Desire to know as little as possible about your spouse’s previous relationships.
Your fear will not control you.
‘Twas better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.
Never date a person who still lives with their parents.
Blessed are you who is sad now. You will laugh.
Blessed are you when people hate you, when they have nothing to do with you and say bad things about you, and when they treat your name as something evil. They do all this because you are a follower of the Son of Man.
When people hurt you, be glad and jump for joy. You will receive many blessings in Heaven.
Christ has come to give you life and to give you more abundant life. Only your sin stands in the way of that abundant life.
Be of good cheer, because today is a good day to be alive.
Because He lives, you can face tomorrow. Because He lives, all fear is gone. And know there is a future, and life is worth the living just because He lives!
Every temptation is an opportunity to do righteousness.
If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.
90% of what you worry about never happens.
Do not criticize any of your spouse’s selections unless they ask for your opinion, and even then, tread lightly.
If you miss just one day of practice, you will notice. If you miss 2 days of practice, your friends will notice. If you miss 3 days of practice, the whole world will notice.
Sin will always take you farther than you want to go and cost you more than you want to pay.
Revenge is not a dish best served cold. It is, rather, a feline supplement and dog food.
Do not do anything under your own power, which is finite, but under God’s power, which is infinite.
Inter arma enim silent leges (In times of war, the law falls silent).
Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not be ashamed.
I have fought the good fight. I have finished the course. I have kept the faith.
I have suffered the 2nd best honour bestowed a Christian. The first is death.
True love is like a unicorn. Everyone has heard about it but no one has ever actually found one.
I want to be in the light as You are in the light. I want to shine like the stars in the heavens.
I don’t want to be a flickering flame. I want to be a raging fire.
I’m here for a good time, not a long time.
Smile when you eat the Gagh. - Klingon proverb
Love conquers all, as long as it fights from at least 1 side, preferably from both sides.
If you always think the way you have always thought, you will always feel the way you have always felt. If you always feel the way you have always felt, you will always do what you have always done. If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always gotten. If you don’t change, there will be no change.
A watched pot never boils.
Illegitimi non carborundum (Don’t let the bastards get you down).
“But” disregards everything that comes before it.
Your spouse has the right to run their own life. They are not too stupid to do it on their own, and you are too busy to run two lives. They must learn to fly from their own mistakes.
Time is a storm in which we are all lost.
Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
Trust is bestowed, not earned.
Power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.
Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me.
Don’t let sentiment get in the way of command decisions.
There’s coffee in that nebula! - Capt. Janeway
Control is not an illusion. You can control yourself, but you do not necessarily have the right to control others.
My high testosterone is both a wonderful gift and a ravenous curse.
The weak will perish. Only the strong survive. Adapt and overcome.
Boredom sets into the boring mind.
That’s the way the cookie crumbles. – Jim Carrey
Failures can happen only with my permission. - John Hagee
In life, there are 2 kinds of people: those who make the decisions and those who carry them out.
In life, there are 2 kinds of people: those that talk about doing something and do nothing, and those who do it and don’t talk about it.
In life, there are 2 kinds of people: bowling pins and bowling balls. Pins set ‘em up and balls knock ‘em down.
In life, there are 2 kinds of people: foxes and rabbits. Foxes are running for their dinner, but rabbits are running for their life. – Jonathan Raven
Weeping may endure for the night, but joy cometh in the morning. – John Hagee
Givers gain. – John Hagee
Great wisdom produces great wealth. – John Hagee
There is danger in debt. Get out of it. – John Hagee
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